The questions we ask ourselves can change the entire landscape and shift the focus from something is happening to us to an expression of who we are. Many of us spend our lives trying to find the right person yet relationships often reveal a more important question which I spoke about in one of my…
How often do we measure ourselves using someone else’s ruler? Somewhere along the way, many of us begin to believe that our worth can be measured by achievement, appearance, success, status or the approval of others. Without realising it, we slowly build an identity around external markers – not because they truly reflect who we…
After stepping back into the world of online dating, I found myself asking a question I wasn’t expecting – Not whether we matched but whether I mattered. Modern day dating platforms are designed around matching. They match on variables such as logistics, interests, hobbies, education, age, politics, religion and provide space for images that are…
The inner critic is not simply a negative voice. It is an internalised authority shaped by our early experiences of criticism, unpredictability or conditional approval. It does not shout, it rarely needs to. It carries the quiet certainty of someone who believes they already know the verdict. When it activates, it feels immediate with a…
Most of us are not disconnected from our inner knowing — we are trained to override it. Inner knowing is not loud. It is consistent. It rarely shouts, does not panic, argue or dramatize. It is a quiet, steady sense of “this is true for me” – even when it is inconvenient. It often shows…