There is a particular kind of tiredness that comes from being a single mother. Not just the physical exhaustion, although that is real, but something deeper. The tiredness that comes from carrying responsibility for years, often unseen, while being the person everyone depends on. For a long time, I don’t think I fully understood how…
Perhaps the reason you cannot forgive yourself is not because you haven’t tried hard enough – but because you are trying to forgive too many things at once. Many people speak about self-forgiveness as though it were a single act; a decision to make, a switch to flip, a sentence to repeat. But self-forgiveness is…
Every child deserves to see delight reflected back in someone’s eyes. There is something profoundly shaping about watching a parent smile simply because their child walked into the room. Not because they achieved something, or because they behaved well or because they were useful but rather simply because they were there. Delight quietly sends a…
Can I belong without becoming someone else? Over the past few months I have found myself returning to this question time and time again. It has emerged through conversations with clients and my own reflections. What I realised is that we don’t simply search for belonging, we search for a place where we can belong…
In moments of uncertainty fear creeps in. When fear is in the driving seat, we lower our expectations to pre-empt disappointment, we remain slightly detached to create stability. We create controlling narratives to prepare our nervous system for possible heartbreak. We outsource our authority over our worth and introduce rules of engagement to create structure,…